Category Archives: Life in General

Leave Shweta Basu Prasad alone or get the bastard who was also involved

This is a little delayed now, I was thinking of writing it since the time I heard of the news about Shweta Basu Prasad being involved in prostitution. I read about it and my first reaction was “What the fuck is this” some actress turned prostitute? Then I searched some more to find that she worked in some serials when she was a kid and every article said that she was very talented, she must have been that all the media is calling her talented.

As far as my reaction is concerned, it was because of the judgmental nature of the society we live in. For the first she is just not another child actor, she was a national award winner, do you know what does a national award means? She won it for a film called Makdee(of which you might not have heard) and when I found that she was Chunni of Makdee I knew who she was and how talented she is as I have watched that movie. Don’t remember yet Iqbal’s sister in movie Iqbal. Remember now?

Well indeed she turned to prostitution and she accepted it, but what is being neglected is that she was not alone in the act THERE WAS SOMEONE ELSE TOO because it is prostitution if someone pays you for sexual favors.

Secondly, it is important to understand why a National Award winner turned to prostitution, isn’t it? She admitted that she is involved well atleast the reports say so. But why not bring the others who were involved too? And why everyone is so focused in saying that she did something which maligns our culture? Is it that being a prostitute is wrong but sleeping with them is just fine? How do people decide who has higher moral ground here?

I am not a feminist, you don’t need to be feminist to see that Salman Khan running over a car on sleeping people while drunk is fine but some actor doing that is not. I do not know what are the reasons that the businessman/ high profile actor/ whoever-the-fuck-big-guy was involved whose name shall never be spoken but it is evident that something is fucked up in people’s head. They just can’t think straight. I do not understand how people can think that a few murders are fine but prostitution is a unforgivable sin.

Also when they do not know why in first place she did that? That is what a pathetic mentality the society has. Fuck the other rich guy involved or leave Shweta alone.

Spending too much on any phone like a brainless monkey is no good so wake up and read

I recently bought a phone, a smart one!! Yeah!! 😉

So this was my first thought, for a product which costs very little to manufacture (compared to selling price), you end up paying extra costs for advertising. People waste precious productive time trying to acquire it and to add to that they feel an emotional connect to it.

I did not want to spend too much money on phone neither I wanted to make emotional connect with a Phone. So I spent 7000 INR (~$130) bucks to buy Moto E. But that is not the agenda, I am talking about this obsession of owning a super expensive smartphone.

Yeah lets take a scenario of two statements:

a) I own a fascinating smart phones which has a glistening high resolution screen, powerful camera, extra ordinary battery life, has a great connection contract, the large number of supported apps mean that I can keep this single device for both my professional and personal needs.

b) I own an iPhone.

Now think of the impact which second statement makes, it’s massive isn’t it? Why? I will tell you because it conveys your status and more importantly it says that you have spent quite a handsome amount on buying the phone which does exactly what is done by statement (a).

Now lemme tell you a fact there were over 300 million iPhones in active use by December 2013 and yet if you own one you are unique, HOW??

Apple or Samsung or HTC or any company for that matter sells their high end product at a stupendous price which btw is manufactured for very less. Amazed, not really, you probably knew it. Then why do they charge such a hefty amount? Because they spend too much in advertising and promoting and running tests rejecting models etc. but primarily it is advertisement. You pay so much not for the product but the ad which made you buy the product. So watch this one:

Now this advertisement boosted the sale of iPhone to a hell lot, but look closely how many of iPhone features are talked about in this ad?

By the way did you know that selling a product at out of the world prices is a PR/Sales strategy for luxury goods? If something is cheap it is not a status symbol, hence it will not be bought by rich people, and middle class will not “dream” of “owning it”. And if it is priced at a lesser margin then it will remain unaffordable for some and yet of no interest to rich. This is the reason why successive phones still continue to remain pricier than previous while cost to manufacture them and need for advertising comes down.

I am not asking anyone to stop buying iPhones or Samsung S5 or HTC 1 M8 or whatever, so proud owners please do not release a fatwa against me. However, my $120 Moto E, does everything I want from a smartphone, it tells me directions, news, views, good blogs on WordPress, get all the knowledge on Quora, stay connected to Twitter, watch videos on youtube/coursera, let me edit docs/excels and entertains me when I need it to.

Nonetheless it is your hard earned money so it is your decision to spend it on a product that you need or on advertisement campaigns of a super expensive product.

P.S.: I am not promoting any Moto product whatsoever.
P.P.S.: I am not anti-iPhone, in fact I love their designs but that doesn’t change the fact that they are overly priced.

 

Ridiculing achievers be it Sarthak Agarwal or Gaurav Agarwal won’t bring any good to you, so please stop!

I miss the time when we used to admire the achievements and achievers. I do not understand what is wrong with the new ALL-TIME-ONLINE junta out there.

First I saw people ridiculing Sarthak Agarwal,  the Class 12 CBSE topper who got 99.6% marks. First thing first, Congratulations dude!! We are proud of you!! Now he did something which most of the people will not achieve even if they are given a  1000 chances or even if we let them write their exam even with an open book.

So instead of understanding that and asking kids to admire him and find a role model or atleast congratulate him, what we do ….. we ridicule him. Well that is something great ain’t it?  C’mon folks he is what 17 or 18 or 19(max) and you are making trolls about him, did you for once thought how is it going to affect him. Probably not coz had you thought of it you would not dare do that.

Now today I saw a useless post on my facebook page which take about Gaurav Agarwal, who holds Bachelor of Technology (Computer Science) degree from Indian Institute of Technology (IIT), Kanpur, and a Post Graduate Diploma in Management from Indian Institute of Management (IIM) Lucknow and now has topped  the prestigious examination of IAS.

 

Now lemme tell you an amazing fact: For the first time in four years, a male candidate topped the prestigious examination who by the way is Gaurav. So he deserves some applause and not some sick and third class jokes.

I understand that they are overachievers and everyone[parents, aunties, teachers and god-knows-who] around you compare with them every now and then to make you feel bad about you but giving low standard comments and making abusive memes are not going to help anyways. Internet can be used for other things, don’t be another angry kid sitting in his dorm and abusing whosoever the kid doesn’t like. Be a sport not hypocrite!!

Live long and prosper \\//

Valley is enjoying the most peaceful time, Repealing 370 straightaway will only mean pushing them in a darker age

Kashmir became part of India in very weird situations. Post independence the Maharajah Hari Singh of this region wanted to stay alone, completely ignorant of the geopolitics around him. Pakistan forcefully tried to take control of his independent nation and without any option left he chose to join India in October 1947.

In order to make them a part of the country Constituent Assembly gave them Article 370 with which they get a li’l special status. The key sticking point which creates controversy is that the citizens from others parts of India cannot easily migrate to Kashmir nor acquire land in the state. Only “Permanent Residents” of the state can acquire property and other Indians cannot become permanent residents.

The state prides in being unique this way and there is a claim that such “uniqueness” breeds further separatism. We took the country in but never accepted them just like what we did with North-East. They are Kashmiri first and then Indians.  So when people say it creates separatism we are not correct as we never fully accepted them on the first thought.

Now as per Article 370, army was deployed to protect the borders of Kashmir from attacks but conditions worsened and Army was deployed on the streets. There were separatists who reacted to army in negative ways and I accept that army has also done several heinous crimes in Valley. The traction has been mutual and more wrong from our part. Army was there to protect them and not torture and harm them in any way.

I hear people often say they want to be part of Pakistan, I say “NO” not even in a zillion year. They hate pakistan way more than that, they are in this situation primarily because of Pak. We have to understand that if they do not support India in an India-Pak match then it is because they want to get back at India for crimes done against them. If India was playing against Nederlands they would support Nederland, it is as simple as that.

Now how people get bad picture, the answer is simple our brainless media. No surprises here, right?

Media only tells that there was a strife in valley and doesn’t tell that it happened because a 10 year old kid was shot dead and in protest the youth of Kashmir came on roads. Now only strife lead to a picture of people creating chaos for no reason however the story is different altogether. It was much like when people came out on streets to protest against the crime against Nirbhaya. But that is covered in a different fashion by media.

Kashmiris can’t forget what happened to their families, the lost lives of their loved ones and neither they can’t forgive it. That is why they do not want to be part of India as well and want to be an autonomous state. It is not separatist, it is rather a right thought.

What India can do or rather must do?

India promised to work for progress of the state, better road, railways, healthcare facilities. But did they get it, well partially yes. They have roads but not they way it should be healthcare there is not in its best shape and neither is communication which was promised in order to make it a part of the nation. First we need to take this as a priority and make an effort to prove that they have not been abandoned.

Did you know  Kashmir produces a large amount of electricity and yet it is not available to the natives themselves. Even now there is a system of “vayr” in Kashmir, where one either gets electricity from 9 to 1 or 6 to 10. So you see the injustice right in the basic call of repealing it.

Repealing 370 straightaway will only mean pushing them in a darker age. Instead if we get them up to speed and help the valley grow let them use their full potential. Provide opportunity of growth to the youth there, involve them in policy making, create better infrastructure over there, we can expect to see it happening in future. But right now it will only do more bad than goods.

Valley is right now in its most peaceful time since late 80s. It will not be right to put this peace in danger for some political mileage.

I am hopeful things will change but not all of a sudden or overnight. Events will take the time they would, no hurry can lead to better result.

Further reads:

http://kafila.org/2013/05/28/eleven-things-india-must-do-in-kashmir-justin-podur/

http://www.satp.org/satporgtp/countries/india/states/jandk/data_sheets/annual_casualties.htm

A truly selfless human: The saint of baylovo

Who says there are no selfless acts/motives in people anymore. There are some who are others absolutely. I am talking about Dobri Dobrev this guy honestly deserve some space here. How and why?

So lemme introduce you to a 99 year old beggar of Bulgaria, who walks several kilometers everyday to  sit or stand in front the Cathedral of Alexander Nevsky in Sofia to beg for money. What’s so special about that, eh?

This man donates every single penny he gets to Orphanages and Charities. How much did you donate last year?

He lost almost all his hearing in second world war in one of the bombings in Bulgarian capital Sofia. In year 2000 he donated all he had to the betterment of society and cut his relations with materialism.  He lives in a evry modest place on his 80 euro pension.


That is the saint of Baylovo

The kind of example that he gives with his asceticism that led many to call him “The saint of Baylovo”. Others call him “Dyodo Dobri” as in Grandpa Dobri with love.  Now that is a life worthy of respect and truly a selfless one.

20 July 2014, he will turn 100 but guess what no one will care for that, will we?

Why saying an atheist is a terrorist is absolutely wrong?

“Saudi Arabia declares all atheists are terrorists in new law” It was reported a couple of days back.

I like getting news, I like to be informed and I generally don’t criticize most of the news I get. But this news is ridiculous, the reason behind this royal decree is to crack down on political dissidents, but for that you can’t declare a belief to be terror provoking.

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Statistically speaking terrorism has majorly been in the name of religion. And since atheists do not believe in god they do not kill people to prove that their GOD is better than someone else’. More people have been killed in the name of religion than any other thing, I mean Crucifications, mass executions, torturing people who spoke against church, throwing stones on prostitutes and thieves till they died have all been done because people went against one GOD.

I have observed that atheists are generally peaceful people, they do not argue to prove superiority of their god or they do not want to fight for such stupid reason. Declaring them as terrorist does not make any sense in any fair universe.

In a perfect world Atheism or Agnosticism will be the most followed ways and not the religious ones because the latter(religion) leads to only chaos. It indeed is disappointing to get any news as stupid as this one.

Something is wrong with the way kids are taught the reality of life

The time we live in is very dynamic and it is changing at a speed which is really tough to cope up with. Every one has been telling me this since a long time. And since I knew this for quite a long time it has occurred to me that there is something wrong with they way kids are taught the reality of life.

In the name of “good manners” we teach them to accept authority. I mean they are taught to respect elders,while RESPECT SHOULD BE EARNED and should not be given for free, never doubt the bible/gita/quran and the most annoying one “Never answer back to the elders. The kid becomes a total submissive by by the time he reaches college and then the suffering begins.

In another part of society which is a li’l liberal, they tend to care so much for their kids that they pamper them so much that the kid remains the kid even when he is 28. See being kiddish is deifferent and behaving like a kid is another thing and very annoying. It is not your mama’s house that your tantrums will be tolerated SOB. I do not understand why they can’t hit their kids and make them somewhat more manly.

It is not only parents who are responsible for an altogether stupid generation, Schools are equally responsible. In order to keep every kid’s morale so high they have started saying “Every Kid is a Winner”. Can’t you see the problem here. The kid won’t learn the harsh reality of life till he reaches in an office and one day his boss tells him that he is a LOSER. you have to prepare kids to take that remark and keep moving forward. They do not lose until they are in a sports team but then also in the inhouse games everyone again is winner.  This is the stupidest act done with the kids.

And this all is giving birth to a ruthlessly stupid generation, dumb and unappealing.

The one who stops me from being me: the Inhibited Me

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He is like me, he thinks like me, he talks like me, he speak the same language I do. He and I even like the same food. We have same ambitions and goals. Yet he is an obstacle in everything I do, he is my biggest critic but lately I have been feeling he just doesn’t let me do anything good.

He says  derogatory things about my work, about initiatives I take even people I hangout with. He doesn’t let me be happy anywhere. He makes me fear things which don’t even exist, which are not even my concern, things which don’t even affect me.

He doesn’t let me live the way I want, I have to worry about how my actions will be perceived, what my community and society think if I do something. I am not the guy who needs to worry about things like these I am a creator I need to worry about how new stuff can be made? But what he has me lowered down to is “Now I think of what people will say about what I do”.

It was all fine initially I used to like his suggestion it made me look good to people I interact with, improved the way I behave but then one day  realize it is someone else’ life I am living. Things I am doing in first place are the things I never wanted to do and I still don’t. They are not even my priorities.

If you did not understand I am talking about “The Inhibited Me”. He has started scaring me these days. Now I overthink everything, I am not a 100% confident anytime because I need to worry about other what others think.

But I have started to realize that I have to shed my inhibitions, I can’t live with them. What others think is none of my business and not my job to give it a damn to their perception about me? When I told him about my thoughts he told me people will think I am an asshole but that is the cost of freedom. Freedom to live, to be happy, to flourish and grow. And he is the one who made me realize it, it is not easy to get rid of him.

No matter how hard I try he successfully convinces me to overthink about everything around me. But he leaves it up to me to make the final call and it is tough to learn to say NO to him. Though it is worth everytime.

What if anti-gay person is asked to hug a Gay Person?

I see a lot of fear in people around homosexuality which is generally derived from minimal understanding of gay people. A social experiment was conducted by The Gay Women Channel(on youtube), where they asked 15 homophobic people to hug gay strangers and what came as output was cute and makes you smile at times and is surprisingly heartwarming.